I have a friend, we've actually known each other only for about three months, but after a week of knowing each other we were like sisters already, I love her so much and she is so important to me. A bit over a month ago this friend of mine found a guy, in the beginning I was so happy and excited for her, everything she told me about him was so wonderful, he was considerate of her and totally spoiled her with everything.
Then one day I met him and I saw that he was really possessive of her and jealous. I work at the same place with my friend and one day, she got off at four and I got off at six so when she left work I asked if we could maybe go out for a drink when I get off. She said yes and when I left work she texted me where to meet "them". When I got there "them" turned out to be her, a really good friend of hers, who I like very much, and the guy. First I thought he was great, he was funny and polite, his jokes were maybe a bit childish and pervy but otherwise a nice guy. And then maybe 30 minutes after I got there this guy said to my friend that they should get going and that they had some plans. We convinced them to stay a little longer (since their plans were mostly to go to her place and make out), but he kept going on every ten minutes. It was clear that he didn't want to hang out with her friends, he just wanted her to himself. We agreed to go somewhere together for food since he said he was hungry. He didn't like any of the places we suggested so we asked him where he'd like to go. He suggested this really weird restaurant but we agreed to go there so we'd still be together. We walked for maybe two minutes when this guy pulled my friend aside and she said to us to go ahead, they'd be right behind us. And after five minutes they caught up with us and said that they're leaving. So they totally ditched us. And all this happened in an hour after I left work at six.
So then Mary (I'll call this friend of my friend this just for clearance) and I thought that since we're both alone now, we'll go for another drink. And we talked all evening about things, she was so pissed off at our friend as well for ditching us. And Mary told me that this is what our friend does every single time she finds a guy, she completely forgets about her friends and moves on very quickly (I mean after they had gone out for two weeks she already met his parents), they've actually talked about having kids already! So I got a little mad at my friend and since I can't speak about serious things face to face without losing my thoughts, I wrote her a message in facebook. In that message I very honestly told her how I feel and think and that I was very hurt since this one hour I saw her that day was the most I had seen her in weeks outside work. It seemed like she took it seriously, the next day she really tried to make time to see me so that we could talk, and we did eventually meet and talk. But after that night we talked, nothing changed. I still see her only at work. And it's so annoying that she can't talk about anything else than this guy and everything they've done together.
And I know I'm not the only one of her friends who think he's no good for her, she got in a fight with her best friend, they've been unbelievably close since they met, they used to do everything together, but now they barely speak about anything else than work stuff (yeah she works at the same place too). And one night my friend said straight to me that she doesn't really even care what other people think about this, it's like she doesn't even care that she's hurting her friends.
I've seriously tried to be okay with this situation, I've tried so hard to accept it and be happy for her, but I just can't accept it that she does no longer care for her friends like she used to. And when I met her, I thought immediately that she is so loyal and caring towards her friends. She had this great empathy and love for everyone, and now that's gone. It's like I don't even know this girl anymore, she has changed too much.
So know I'm helpless, I feel so hurt all the time since I feel she's disappearing from my life and she doesn't even notice it. I want to talk to her about this but it's impossible to find time alone with her, she's always with him. And the fact that we work together makes this even harder because we need to remain a professional relationship no matter what.
I really need your help, I don't know what to do anymore. Oh, and sorry for the long and very messy text, this is so hard to explain in a simple way.