I'm in a similar situation with my best friend
We've known each other since we were 15, so about 5 years, but back in January 2011 her "ex" (I say that because they were like 13/14 when they first dated, so it wasn't anything serious) got back in contact with her. It started out fine, but he is literally the most paranoid, possessive guy EVER. Once he broke up with her because she didn't answer her phone as she had just arrived at my house and was talking to my parents, but he thought she was with another guy.
Another time, she was over at my flat for the weekend. My (female) flatmate was away so it was just the two of us, but he phoned constantly, saying "are there any guys with you?" and he also thought my gay friend was trying to get into her pants
The thing is, he accuses her of cheating, yet who has slept with other girls? Who created a profile on a dating website and flirted with other girls, then accused her of setting it up to try and frame him?! Who has stolen money from her, just to spite her??! Who even accused her of cheating on him with her mum's partner???!?!?!?!
Ooh I could rant for ages about him
But long story short, it's really starting to put a strain on our relationship, I'm terrified of losing her because of him
it's already causing a lot of tension between her and her family - they've have said it's them or him, so she's lying to them about their on/off relationship - and she's already lost friends because of him. I'm really at my wits end, just when I think they've finally broken up for good and she's starting to move on with her life, he gets in contact again and acts all nice and caring, but that doesn't last long. She keeps saying "but I'll always love him" - he treats you like
, how can you love him?!?
I just don't know what to do