@Rosenrot; your post was spot on; that's exactly how I feel about drinking. Yes, I do drink, but like you I know my limits and I have never been drunk at all, nor do I have any plans to, despite people saying to me they'll get me drunk (the most they ever got me to do was down a vodka and coke. Bleurgh.) I see no appeal whatsoever in getting drunk: I think it's the thought of that loss of control that puts me off the most. My drinking habits mainly involve a glass of wine when I go out to a restaurant or a glass of wine with my parents at the weekend. I generally stay away from spirits as well (although I am rather fond of a glass of Archers and lemonade).
Likewise, my fiance is the same way. He has a very high tolerance for alcohol (must be the German side LOL), I could go into a whole paragraph of what he had at a friends party. In any other person I know, myself included, I would have been passed out drunk. But he was completely sober. Pacing is key, especially in drinking situations.
I found what works best is to NEVER drink on an empty stomach. Have food (lots of carbs) before hand, after one drink (a glass full) have at least 2 glasses of water, keep that ratio going of 1:1:2, and the most you would feel is slightly buzzed. Of course this is also dependent upon your body/weight, etc...
We were at a wedding recently and man oh man was the alcohol flowing. Waiters with trays of import beers, tons of different types of wine... it was heaven for me as I like to just try new things and appreciate the flavor of alcohol. I am not a 'chug chug chug' type of drinker. I paced myself between my two glasses of red and one glass of white wine, with water, food, and just walking around.
My point is you can drink, and remain in charge of yourself while drinking "enough" to be considered "normal" (by their weird standards), but the even bigger point is you shouldn't HAVE to. Saying no thank you should make things very clear.
**and to note, at the wedding no one got violent drunk. There was so much love there everyone was just being silly and loving on everyone lol. It was a nice change of pace to see people being drunk but not belligerent or violent. I've been around drunk violence and I hate it, which is why I refuse to let myself even get close to being drunk. I have no idea how I would be, and I do not wish to find out.